Re Framing - How to Re Frame

Re framing is all about changing what you think about a particular event or situation. The idea is for you to change the current meaning of that event. As you change the meaning your behaviour, feelings and responses will change. the very best Hypnosis and NLP

You can change the context and the content with reframing

You may have heard the story about the two shoe salesmen that were both sent off to a foreign country to look for business opportunities. On the first day in the country the first salesman phoned his offices and demanded that they immediately fly him back home as ‘no one in this country wears shoes’. The other salesman phoned his offices to demand that they immediately send over as many pairs of shoes as possible because ‘no one in this country wears shoes’

We can change our perceptions of anything and immediately change our state and our behaviour.

We are not saying that we should all walk around wearing rose tinted glasses.

What we are saying is that you can change the meaning of any event that is holding you back or keeping you in a negative ‘frame’ of mind. We build our perceptions of events from beliefs and frames that we have put around these events in the past.

If you have ever had an experience of something that was upsetting or bad in any way you can look at the situation and discover what you learned from it or how it helped to develop you in another way.the best hypnosis training in the uk includes NLP

Think of David’s story from the previous page, for the rest of his life he could have limped around with the old frame of ‘I’m not a scholar; I will never have any success’.

Instead he realised that the one tool he could use was his communication tool. Suddenly he saw himself as a master communicator.

We do not believe you should live in the past but are there any situations or events from your past that are holding you back? Could you reframe these events?

In the Dynamic NLP Daily Journal you have the opportunity to look very closely at your Beliefs, Rules and Standards. Think of anything that has happened to you that re framing can turn from a negative to a huge positive for you

If there is something holding you back, maybe a disempowering belief that you now accept as true, then you really should reframe the event. Commit now to never let anything from the past hold you back in your future.

Make a list of any events or situations that you can reframe.

For fun, reframe these situations:

My Ferrari only does 12 to the gallon

I pay too much in taxes; I have paid almost £100,000 this year

My wife spends a fortune on clothes, even more now she has lost all that weight

This lawn is far too big; we need a ride on mower

One example I can give you of reframing in my own life is that I had always hated spiders, to the point where I could say I was actually terrified of them, that was until my friend decided to introduce me to his pet Tarantula.

Phobias are usually developed at a kinaesthetic level, as my friend passed me the Tarantula to hold I fully understood what I meant when I said to him I hated the thought of touching that spider.

He said to me ‘just imagine he is wearing silk slippers’. He then put the spider in my hand.

There were too many people watching for me to back down, although at first I wanted to fling it across the room.

I must have held the Tarantula for ten minutes; my friend had completely reframed my thinking towards spiders.

I am not terrified of them anymore; I just don’t like them, whereas in the past I would go into a cold sweat at the sighting of a spider.

A Re framing Process (Negotiating with Yourself)

Richard Bandler and John Grinder, two of the founders of NLP designed a process that you can use to change behaviours (any elements of the old behaviour that are important, beneficial or helpful can be kept)

Identify the behaviour, pattern or habit that you want to change.

Make a connection and communicate with the part of your mind that generates the behaviour

Ask, what has it been trying to do for you by generating this behaviour

Ask the creative part of your mind to come up with alternative behaviours that are as good, if not better than you get through the old behaviour

Get the new behaviours accepted by the part of the mind that used to create the unwanted behaviour and ask it to accept responsibility for producing the new behaviours.

Ask yourself, are there any parts of me that do not agree to the new behaviours.

View the future; see yourself in a situation that would have triggered the old habit or behaviour, now imagine yourself using the alternative behaviour whilst still receiving the benefits of the old behaviour.

When you have decided on some alternatives you can do a swish pattern and try out your new behaviour and the results they will give you.

For example if you want to quit smoking and you have decided on three alternative behaviours such as jogging, swimming and martial arts then you could see yourself looking good and feeling good, add in your most powerful submodalities then see how motivated you are towards changing.

Re framing past situations and events can have an incredible effect on your rules and beliefs. The question is do you some of your rules and beliefs hold you back? Are they disempowering? Re frame events and you will go a long way towards changing your life. re framing

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